December 24th, 2008


That 2008 Blog

*easing* back into the blog thing

1. What did you do in 2008 that you'd never done before?
Went to Istanbul.
Had a casual love affair (no really, that was me being casual)
Applied for a promotion and (EVENTUALLY) got one
Lived on my own (and loved it)
Took care of myself
Got a personal trainer
Became a Book Publisher
Started a business
Went to Conflux
Did the City to Surf

2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
Hmmmm ... it's bad that I can't remember what they were if I made them, right? I did intend to get fit and lose weight ... I think I am fitter and weigh less than I did.
In the process of thinking about what I am doing for next year.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
What, like in a queue or something?
No. Good friend from high school, but in NYC now and not sure if that counts.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

5. What countries did you visit?
Israel, Dubai (Airport) and Turkey.
Also went to Canberra.

6. What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008?
Something that you can't write on a to do list.

7. What dates from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
Dec 31/Jan 1 - K and I made the pact (see Qn 2) and I saw a dead body lying on the freeway.
Feb 27 - cause even though this was my first birthday in years without him, the ex STILL managed to ruin my birthday
Jun 30 - my cousin's wedding in Tel Aviv
Aug 4 - J broke up with me

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Helping raise more than $25 000 for a friend.
Hmmm.... job promotion, 2012, Angel Rising, guest at Wastelands, Ditmars and Tin Ducks.

9. What was your biggest failure?
My job interview. I sucked.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Got bitten by a spider. Had a lot of headches and migraines.

11. What was the best thing you bought?
Plane tickets.

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?
Ben. He knows why.
My Mum - she does a lot and it mostly goes unnoticed or unacknowledged.
Kathryn for joining RSVP and for still putting up with all my crap.
My friends. All of them. Too many for listing and for too many reasons.
J who is even nice when he dumps you.
Tehani who is the most amazing person to have in your corner.

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?
As if you would answer that here.

14. Where did most of your money go?
Apart from living? Small Press and my trip to Israel/Turkey.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Obama winning the US Election.
My sister's new puppy.
A boy.

16. What song will always remind you of 2008?
You Don't Know Me - Ben Folds and Regina Spektor
Death Cab for Cutie - Possess Your Heart
Kings of Leon - Somebody

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:i. happier or sadder? ii. thinner or fatter? iii. richer or poorer?
OMFG HAPPIER! Slightly thinner. Hard to say moneywise. Richer definitely in my soul and my life and my heart.

18. What do you wish you'd done more of?
Hanging out with my friends. Reading for fun and crafting. Watching more films.

19. What do you wish you'd done less of?
Stressing out. Reading OMG bad short fiction. Crying. getting caught up in things that don't matter.

20. How will you be spending Christmas?
At J's house and then at Russ and Liz for dinner.

21. Who did you meet for the first time?
Mitch. Jason. Nick, Rob Shearman, Terri. Nyssa. Jo. Christina. Bunch of other work friends, since I moved buildings midyear.
Surely more people than this???

22. Did you fall in love in 2008?

23. What was your favourite TV program?
The View.
And old faves for comfort - Friends, Sex and the City, Buffy.

24. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
Hate? Hate is a lot of energy to put on people or things that don't deserve it. There are people I no longer have time for. I'm sad that I don't even consider the ex a friend.

25. What was the best book you read?
I didn't read a lot of books this year. I loved Justine's How to Ditch Your Fairy. I loved Peter Ball's Unicorn Porn novella that I bought. I probably got the most excited over that.

26. What was your greatest musical discovery?
Kings of Leon. And then Death Cab for Cutie. And very very recently Girl Talk.

27. What was your favourite film of this year?
Didn't see enough film this year. Paris maybe? Or else Juno.

28. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I was 32.
I discovered a fabulous thing - you can give yourself the day off on your birthday! I shouted myself to an amazing day spa - full body massage, body scrub, facial and then a steam. SO doing that next year.
Had lunch with my Mum. A bunch of girlfriends came over on the Saturday night, I think.

29. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Requited Love.

How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008?
In transition.

31. What kept you sane?
My friends.
(also, counselling)

32. What political issue stirred you the most?
Hmmm ... just one?
The US elections.
Internet Censorship
Carbon trading
Wetlands [deeply technical policy type wording here]

33. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008.
Nothing is worth having if you have noone to share it with. Love comes in all shapes, sizes and colours and no matter the packaging, is worth exactly the same. The only thing in life you can influence is the way you experience it. Release expectation and entitlement and the world is suddenly more surprising, more giving and more worthwhile.
It is better to have loved and lost.
Nothing is worth having if the wanting of it changes your ability to appreciate it when you finally get it.
How you are and go through the world is how the world is and will be towards you.
The world has more good people than bad in it.
Chill out, stop stressing and sit back and enjoy the show. It really is spectacular.
Sometimes it's only when you think you have lost something that you realise you never really had it in the first place.

It was a big year, the above are only the highlights.

34. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
I suck at song lyric games.

Life is all about the journey, right?!

So ... I wonder if my usual bloggage (blogging mileage) gets in the way of me getting on with things. Since I took a break from the blog, I've been, well, getting on with things.

For example, I joined my local library last week. I needed to get a PIN to online reserve books and it turned out when I went in to do that that even though I have been a member there since I was born, it had been so long since my last activity that I had dropped off the system. And I had to get a shiny new card. And then I asked about a YA section, and yo, it was the cool area up the back corner with mirrors and posters and stuff.

Anyway so I got online and browsed, reserved some stuff and recommended a bunch of books too. And then my notices to come in and collect things came through this week so I popped in today to pick up some books.

And bloody hell! I may have mentioned here before that I used to have a fear of librarians. Seriously. I wouldn't go into libraries cause I had to face them and that could be why my membership lapsed.

Anyway. Get this!! You can go online, reserve your books, get an email when they are in, pop in and get your OWN BOOKS off the reserved shelving, and then use computers to swipe your barcode ad check out your own books. You don't have to interact with librarians AT ALL!

Finally, we have this technology 4 YEARS AFTER I got over my bloody fear in ANY CASE!


other stuff

I wrote a list the other day of things that I don't want to have still to do or still making me unhappy this time next year. (Did I do this last year, I can't remember!) It's not really a resolutions list but more of a ... this weighs me down in the background noise, it would be good if it didn't anymore ... I removed some of these sort of things this year and it was a fantastic feeling getting some monkeys off my back (it's like a zoo back there).

One of these things was final closure with the ex which inspired me to sort that out, get my stuff and face that last meeting. And I did it today. It took all of 5 mins. Dunno if that's good or bad or how it makes me feel but now I no longer have anything I am putting off in that direction. I think I have finally severed the tie. He was all "is there anything else etc?" And that was the end of it, I now have all my stuff. Yay and done.

I finally book a map book for my car today. Installed Firefox. Other stuff like that.

I've been wandering around Perth trying to find good book stores, or at least stores with good YA sections - my library doesn't seem to have all the books Tansy reviews in the Shiny mags and they all look so good!! (My library plus the other 5 I have access to via it) I also discovered that all the A&R and Dymocks in my localish vicinity have really crappy YA sections. So disappointing. I complained about this the other night to my uncle who suggested I go look in Planet - why didn't *I* think of that?? (And he listed a bunch of other fancy pants specialist stores) I popped in today to Planet - Robin busted me in the YA section! - and yeah, awesome collection of YA. Doh! Grabbed myself Maureen Johnson's Devilish which I then read the first 4 chapters of in the bath this evening. My library had a couple of her other books. I also got Eclipse 2 (Chiang, Chiang, Chiang) and Vol 3 Buffy. I think I have enough holiday reading to go on with - have about 5 books out of the library and a bunch of other stuff.

Have watched the first 7 eps of the last of Sopranos. Have Dexter, Hex and calla_s's The Avengers to go next. As well as some of the Season 5 Project Runway and Heroes and BSG. I only have 11 days off work left too.

Gotta go!


I met kathrynlinge at a new day spa for a facial and massage. I was 15 minutes late - I'm not very reliable at 9am and I'm still not sleeping. But they punished K for my lateness but cutting short both our treatments. I feel very bad about that. I'm still working on the relaxing and chilling out thing. The whole way through the session I kept thinking I was going to be very upset if we got no massage at all - yesterday I was cheated out of my work massage cause she was running late and I didn't mind cause we were going today. AND my therapist got something in my eye! She said she was careful and I should have had my eyes closed (like I said, not good with the *relaxing*) but she was also rubbing a lot of things in my eyes. Normally they avoid your eyes totally. Not cleanse the lids etc. I had this terrible burning in my eye for the first half of the treatment.

We did though get some massage - feet, hands, neck and scalp. And facial massage - am quite into the Indian Head Massage thing, actually. And in the end, I was somewhat relaxed. Though I note what they didn't cut short was the hardsell at the end of the session - giving us both free makeup application etc (mine burned my skin the rest of the day).

We had lunch at the Crazy Man and exchanged xmassy things - I got VIP nail polishes!!!!

Was nice to sit and catch up with K, not sure when we last had the chance.

Just do it!

I think I've blogged this before - that I have this thing where I don't like to do everything now in case I run out of things to do later. We talked about it, I know. And we can to the understanding that I would probably never run out of things to do.

But I actually do it with everything. I'm one of those people who saves special soaps and candles and things - you know, till they're like 15 years old and you have to throw them out cause they're mouldy. But I'll not read a book as soon as I get it home from the shops. Or watch new DVDs. Or use a new appliance as soon as it comes in the door. I put everything off. Let things settle, put them on display, before I use them or figure out how they work.

I do it with everything - like with my holidays, take a day or two to settle into them before I actually do whatever it is that I planned or wanted to get done. Or presents - unwrap them and then just look at them for a while before I like ... I dunno, use them?

Well in the spirit of breaking bad habits, I have unwrapped the lovely tea that I got this week from my ASif! Fairy and used my little teapot for one and matching cup (which I've had for nearly a year now and not yet used) and made up a little pot of tea and brought it to bed with me. The start of a new habit, I say! Part of being the person I want to be - which, by the way, is one who enjoys exciting, exotic teas (as long as it doesn't impact on the coffee imbibing). This cup is delicious - strawberries and cream! Yum!