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It's wild and woolley out there tonight. I don't want to go out. I'm the sort of person who likes to hole up in a warm bed on nights like tonight. I don't want to put on heels and whatnot and venture out. On top of that, I have to then to a midnight airport run with my mum to pick up my dad. So absolutely no time this evening for myself (to read, either for LSS, for ASif, or for fun (ha) or to knit). I also have managed to pretty much book up all my windows of time between now and when the bf gets home. This is part of my thing with the hunger about wanting to everything and do it now. And it means I get no personal time.

Do you get a bit guarded and protective about your personal time? What do you do when you look down days of not getting any?

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girliejones
Sep. 12th, 2007 10:43 am (UTC)
So what do you do if no personal time is scheduled in the foreseeable future (like for me .... possibly sunday night and then its the week again)
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girliejones
Sep. 13th, 2007 06:18 am (UTC)
Steph, locked in her room until flatmate moves out (yes, it's that bad)

been there, done that!
ex_benpayne119
Sep. 12th, 2007 11:06 am (UTC)
I guess it's a matter of finding the balance that works for you... between doing the things you want to do and having enough time to yourself.

If the balance ain't right, then you just need to juggle it a little maybe?

I know the level of personal time I need to function sanely and I'm pretty stubborn about maintaining it...
girliejones
Sep. 14th, 2007 06:02 am (UTC)
How much personal time do you need to maintain? As a matter of curiosity
callistra
Sep. 12th, 2007 11:18 am (UTC)
Cry.
And arrange for more daycare.
girliejones
Sep. 14th, 2007 06:01 am (UTC)
*sympathies*
fred_bear
Sep. 12th, 2007 11:31 am (UTC)
I do get very guarded about it and, like Ben, I'm very stubborn in maintaining it. If it gets to the point where I need the time but don't have it I will pull out of things. I need to protect the sanity I have.
girliejones
Sep. 14th, 2007 06:01 am (UTC)
I try to be stubborn. But I am also trying balance - perhaps I have overshot in the other direction this time.
rachelholkner
Sep. 12th, 2007 12:19 pm (UTC)
I'm very precious about my personal time too. I get 4 hours a week while Abbey's at kinder. This week I get half that because I'm on kinder duty, which I grumble about, but try not to resent it. I get to play playdough and cut up fruit - hardly stressful, but annoying when I think of all the delightful nothing recharging I could be doing.

I haven't got any great coping strategies either I'm afraid. The best I've come up with is lying in bed an extra 10 minutes in the morning to stare at the ceiling.
girliejones
Sep. 14th, 2007 06:00 am (UTC)
So I officially felt bad for complaining reading this. 4 hours a week is very sobering.
rachelholkner
Sep. 14th, 2007 09:04 am (UTC)
Oh! I didn't mean to make you feel bad!
Different circumstances, different responses. All that.
I certainly couldn't have jumped from "no kid" levels of free time to "pre-schooler" tiny amounts of free time without the four years of build up. (In between is intense, but at least babies nap a lot. Or are supposed to.)
It's the people who have more than one I can't get my head around. When do they breathe?
girliejones
Sep. 14th, 2007 10:14 am (UTC)
I'm not sure they do breathe!!! It all looks like lots and lots of hard work to me!! But yes ... that loss of personal time must be huge!
random_alex
Sep. 12th, 2007 09:11 pm (UTC)
Drop things.

Tell students they won't have their assignments back for another week; pull out of Bible study; apologise to friends that I can't see them... choose not to go out and do whatever. If I'm going to be a zombie because of all of it, I'd rather stay home and possibly annoy people rather than definitely annoy them by eating their brains.
girliejones
Sep. 14th, 2007 05:59 am (UTC)
yah. I tend to burnout instead. Lots of stuff on I can't drop - tix to the ballet, catching up with friends that happens only irregularly, the bf commitments, things like that!
So I guess its zombie for me then.
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girliejones
Sep. 14th, 2007 05:58 am (UTC)
Personal time to be protected at all costs!
Agreed! But not always possible! And haha for getting your Shiny story postponed!!! Although, postponing work on LSS does sound like a good idea!
exp_err
Sep. 13th, 2007 03:53 am (UTC)
What do you do when you look down days of not getting any?

If it's because of a field trip or something for work, I plough through as best I can.

If it's because of family obligations, I do my best to snatch moments to myself when I can.

If it's social stuff and voluntary work, I ditch things. Call in sick, or just don't show up. It's naughty, but I *need* my personal time.
girliejones
Sep. 14th, 2007 05:56 am (UTC)
My problem is that they aer social things that I also want to do. So its like i have this short amount of time and I've stuffed it full of things but also want to read a stack of novels!
exp_err
Sep. 14th, 2007 05:58 am (UTC)
In my case, if I have no personal time, then I don't want to do social things, even if they are things that I'd otherwise really want to do.
girliejones
Sep. 14th, 2007 06:02 am (UTC)
well that's how it gets and then I show up all grumpy (which is not pretty)
fred_mouse
Sep. 13th, 2007 01:11 pm (UTC)
being an introvert (despite a number of people's disbelief, 'cos I like people) I desperately need time together. When A and I first moved in together, we had an arrangement that we would each have a night out each week, which meant that theoretically, I got a night out to *not* be a parent, and a night in on my own. In general, I still get my night out, but not my night in. To get around this, I frequently refuse to go to bed at the right time, so that I can have some quiet time. I also send myself to bed because I'm in a bad mood... (which doesn't always work with small children, as they have a tendency to follow).

I take books to social gatherings, and when I hit the point where I want to pour coffee over the next person who talks to me, I go and find a spot in the sun/near the fire/in the corner, and make like reading. I also find comfortable spots and make like I'm having a nap - this one I find particularly successful with family gatherings.

And the last one - I play hookey from work. Today, I got in early, and left early (and still did 8 hours useful work), so I got to sit at the busstop in West Perth for about half an hour, enjoying the sun and my book. Oh, and bus trips work for me as down time.

My definition of 'me' time has changed as my kids get older - I've failed to teach them to cook very much, as I count the half an hour I get in the kitchen when preparing dinner as time out. If I'm up to company, they get to help, but if I'm feeling overloaded, I send them all elsewhere.

and when I've failed with all of this? I lose my temper (sometimes spectacularly), rant about *everything* that has gone wrong in the previous 48 hours (even the silly things the kids have done) and then burst into tears. And send myself to my room. Tanty city!
fred_mouse
Sep. 13th, 2007 01:13 pm (UTC)
bah. that first line should have said 'time alone'. which I think of as 'together with books' or 'together with computer' or anything else that enables me to ignore everyone else in the house...
girliejones
Sep. 14th, 2007 05:56 am (UTC)
All good - except for when you have scheduled your own busy schedule full of things you want to do! that's my problem - wanting to be in two places at once. Still now i have the handbag with the novel and mags inside, I might be able to adopt some of your techniques.
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